Sellina's Wedding Dinner

A close friend of mine just got married recently. Since, this is my personal blog, I would like to express my feelings here. I would usually consider her as my best friend. But what does best friend really means? What does best friend really applies to? What does best friend indicates?

Well....to me, I would define best friend as someone who is up to date with your progress, who concerns your well being, who does everything on first hand with you, who tells you everything and keep no secrets with you, who keeps you in her priority list, who always have you in her mind and who always hang around keeping in close contact with you.

It actually sounds funny to me when this close friend of mine got married and everyone kept on posting 'congratulations to my best friend....best friend...best friend' to her on Facebook. Well, to them, best friend might just sound another friendly term to describe their friendship but to what extend their 'best friend' term applies, I'm not sure.

I can only be sure about how I felt and not others. I used to think of her as best friend, best sister like others as well but recently I don't think it is a suitable term to use anymore. I would prefer to indicate our friendship as old and close friends. Not best friends. Well, I just don't think best friend exist alright. Even with Ms. Ho, she also seldom share her thoughts and feelings with me. But, of course I do appreciate her moments with me when I had difficulties in life previously. In which why, I would rather regard her as a close friend whom I would confide everything to. But not as best friends who are up to date with each other.

Back to my close married friend, I didn't know when she got registered with her hubby until I met up with her recently to pass her her wedding gift. I mean, she did not even informed me. Alright, she might not wanna troubled me, but the thing is, if you consider me as your best friend, aren't you supposed to keep me in the loop? I might want to be there and give my blessings. But she only informed me when I actually asked her when she is getting registered for marriage.

Back to me, perhaps I can't make it to her gown choosing session, I didn't make it to her bachelorette party, I can't make it to her morning wedding ceremony in Johor, I can't help her out and left early during her dinner reception in KL that makes me felt left out by her. It contributes and make sense okay. Being the naturally friendly her, she is alright with it but definitely and naturally, the feelings will ebb and other friends will be proud to take the role instead.

Of course there is every reason for me that I can't make it. Maybe it's the commitment of having a family and child that make things different. I can't be there when and where needed. Like I can't attend her hen's night because they practically went clubbing, I can't attend her Johor ceremony because it was in Johor and I aren't single to leave when and where as I like. Unless it's work related, I have no choice. I left early and can't help her to usher guest during her dinner because I brought my son together. I know she understands but automatically things will distance by itself. Like she did not even include me in her thankful wishes to her bridesmaids.

I used to think of her as best friend but I guess best friend is not a suitable term after all. I would regard her as a close and long timed friend. Anyway, despite my own feelings, I'm so happy for her. After all these years, she finally found someone who really cared for her. Who will think of her more than himself. Who will set her in priority than himself. Who is financially secured and will be able to provide her happiness. Unlike her previous pain in the ass boyfriends!

Hope she finally found eternal happiness and contentment within herself.....

I love this photo the best. May she be blessed with true happiness. Congratulations.

To Ms Ho, I know you are eagerly waiting for my updates on what happened during the wedding dinner. Sadly, I haven't got much to report as I left after the second dish (sharkfin soup but I managed to finish first la). I brought Lunz along and all the time I had to keep him occupied. Initially I planned to go all by myself and even promised her I would be there early to see her make up and help out with the guest. But later she called me asking me to bring Lunz along and so I did.

I arrived on 6.30pm and accompanied her in the VIP waiting room while she did her make up. Nothing much happened as she was busy with her make up and I had to entertained Lunz most of the time. Then, later I went out to my table and sat there with Lunz until they started the dinner. Phew....although Lunz was obedient enough but still I have to keep him occupied so that he wouldn't felt bored and asked me to leave. When I started to get up and take pictures with Choo they all, and then the little one started to ask me to go home because I think he felt tired as he did not take his nap earlier. So, I left by 9.30pm. The dishes were damn slow and they were only serving the third dish when I left. But of course, I informed her first prior leaving in the VIP room. She was changing her gown.

Well, if I didn't bring Lunz on my own, I would have more time to mingle around the old CPRians and talked crap. I would even stayed for the group photography session. But, since it was the bride's request and I felt that most of my friends haven't met the little one before. I brought my little proud achievement there all by myself (as daddy wanna stayed behind and watched F1). Hmmmppphhh........

The little one was very cute and kept posing with his two-two fingers (peace sign). Most of them didn't believe he is just 4 years old and told me that they wanna pinched him because he is chubby and cute wor.